Simple Ways to Relax More

Live in the moment by following this Zen advice for you and your kids from Gabrielle Berstein, author of “The Universe Has Your Back”:

Speak Easy
If you’re in an anxious situation, take deep breaths and repeat the mantra “Peace begins with me.” Research shows it can trigger a relaxation response In your body. As you say each word, tap your thumb on your index, middle, ring, and pinky fingers, letting each word correspond to a different digit. Practice this regularly and use it as your go-to soothing tool.

Write Your Remedy
Jot down a few upbeat affirmations, such as “I am happy,” “I am loved,” I am healthy” or anything else you’re thankful for. Stick them on the fridge, in your car or on the bathroom mirror as a daily reminder of all the good in your life.

Embrace the Wait
Getting stuck in traffic, sitting at the doctor’s office, standing in a super-long line at the store: They’re all time sucks annoying enough to provoke a silent scream unless you take control of the situation. Turn it into a happier experience by listening to an audiobook or podcast, calling a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while or downloading a cool new app. Instead of letting your blood pressure rise, you’ll be relaxed and having fun.

Picture This
Cut or print out images that reflect what you want to happen in your life in the next six months to a year. Paste them on a piece of paper as a reminder of what you’re working toward. Every time you glance at it, you’ll focus on what you have to look forward to.

Switch Your Thoughts
When you have something you’re dreading like an awkward conversation with your partner or a work presentation picture a positive outcome. Take five minutes, close your eyes and stop yourself from dwelling on possible negatives by replacing them with uplifting images. Train yourself to do this whenever discouraging thoughts start to sneak in.